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Role reversal

The moment you realise you're parenting your parent—and nobody prepared you for it. Grieving the parent you knew while caring for who they are now, making decisions FOR them when authority flips, and why the smallest tasks (like trimming toenails) carry the heaviest emotional weight.

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